I was in a second hand shop the other day and bought a book,
yes a real book printed on paper. I have nothing against electronic books, I
have a tablet which lets me read books on it also, but I guess I'm of the
generation that still likes to hold a book printed on real paper too.
Anyway, a few days later I started reading the book. As I
normally do, I read the front and rear covers and normally check to see what
year the book was written, etc. (just a curiosity of mine). While looking the
book over I found an inscription in the front of the book and the inscription
has more meaning than the book it'self.
In 1993 two children, Rachal and Richard wrote this message
(in part) in the cover of the book: "Dear Dad… I read something today that
reminded me of you, so here it is… 'A father is strong, yet flexible; wise, yet
always learning; a leader, yet serving others.' That's you dad! We love
you."
We all dream of having the "Perfect" relationship
with our children patterned after some thing we have seen, read or been taught.
The problem is that many in our world rarely have that kind of relationship. We
have been blessed in our family in the fact that now as adults our children
seem to like us pretty well, but it wasn't always that way when they were growing
up. There were lots of times when they probably didn't like us very well, maybe
even wished they had other parents who were more like their idea of the
"Perfect" parents.
That's part of what being a dad is about though, isn't it? A
dad is a source of love and protection, but he is also a source of rules and
discipline. As the inscription said, "A father is strong, yet flexible;
wise, yet always learning; a leader, yet serving others." The Scripture
instructs us as parents, to "Train up a child in the way they should go."
(Proverbs 22:6), and from experience I can tell you, that's not always easy.
Too often today, it seems that Dad's try and be "Best
Friends" to their children, but you can't "Always" be in that
place, because God gave you a greater job. Sometimes you have to face up to the
fact that there are times while they are growing up, that you kids won't like
you very well, but that's how it is suppose to be. Because no one likes to be
disciplined, the scripture tells us, "No discipline is enjoyable while it is
happening, it’s painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of
right living for those who are trained in this way." (Hebrews
12:11, NLT)
Now that they are adults our children can appreciate the
discipline they had while growing up in our home. Occasionally, I'll even get
the "Dear Dad" note or phone call. Those are special and meaningful,
but I don't believe they would happen, if I had been less than a "Real
Dad" while they were growing up. So, dad's, if you want to change the
world, if you want to raise good kids, step up to the place and responsibility
God has given you.
And Rachal and Richard, you message is still appreciated,
even by a different dad than your own.
Russ Lawson, Messages From The Heart
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